For the last few weeks I’ve been getting updates about a sort of x-relative of mine who is in the process of dying. Her (E) and I haven’t had any contact in the last number of years, but I have ‘kept up with news of her’ though this mutual friend who’s been emailing.

So this mutal friend, B, has been updating me - partly because I spent more than a decade with, E, very much a part of my life, and partly, I think, because he (B) needs to be able to talk with someone who’d ‘be on the same page’ about these things.

The 1st email had E going to hospital via a 911 call by her 18 year old son. The emergency trip to the hospital saved her life. There have been a few update emails since then, all requesting that I take part ‘in a miracle’ - meaning, with the purest intentions, please pray for her to get through this crisis and to become healthy again. ” If you see fit, we thank you for any healing, or best for her wishes you might be able to offer.”

My spiritual sensibilities and what I believe to be laws of the Universe, prevent me from responding in this way. In this case, B and I are actually in agreement. His emotional attachment to E (even though they have been separated for many years) and concern for their son’s state, ability to cope and ultimate well-being caused him to ‘lose his head’. I know that for certain. And I am very grate-full to not have had to find a way to tell him that I could not, in conscience, do as he asked.

In the first place, I do not pray for someone who has not expressly asked for him or herself. To me, that would be an invasion of privacy. At the soul level of life, no one can ask on behalf of someone else. Only each individual soul knows it’s sacred contract being lived out. Only that soul knows what (karma) it set out to resolve. Maybe getting … cancer, alcoholism, betrayed by it’s spouse, hit by a transport truck … was part of the plan, to live certain scenarios in order to grow from the experience. And so, in my belief system, ‘praying’ for (a miracle) her recovery’ without being asked by her is ‘against the rules’.

Secondly, … that will be another day.