I was talking with a friend and we got on the subject of the fact that so many women go into a relationship with a man, knowing that they do not like many things the guy does or things about his personality(quirks) and then they try to change these things. I realized before I started writing this, that women are not the only ones who do this in relationships, men are just as guilty of this as well. Could this be part of the reason that there is such a high rate of divorce. I mean I know that I have made some changes in my life that our people suggested I make but these things did not happen because I was told to make the change but because I wanted the change myself. I know that my sister-in-law tried to get my brother to stop smoking and he did for a while but the first time he had a lot of stress at work he went back to smoking to cope., so I think that for a change to really stick with us, we need to be making it for ourselves not for someone else, just to please them. Can you say PEOPLE PLEASER!!! I for one have been one on way too many occasions in the past and I do not like myself when I have been one in the last few years. It feels like I am betraying a part of myself, that I have betrayed too many times in the past. I want to be more authentic then that now. I know that there are times when people who knew the people pleaser me, that are in for a shock because I have prickles. I laugh at myself but I am trying to stand up for me and not take other people’s crap anymore, and if that means that there are times that when people do not like me then that is ok, I am big enough to know that not everyone is going to like me and I do not like every person I meet either. I am giving myself permission to faulter at times and back slide but I also, give myself permission to be me because I deserve to be known for who I am not some shadow of myself.